How good Are You at Dealing with Loss

[Dan]

So I was wondering how good to you think you are at dealing with loss of a loved one. Sadly one of my loved ones had passed away recently and I thought it wouldn't really effect me since I knew it could happen anytime soon, but when it happened it hit me like a ton of bricks, and I began crying as did when I was child pain stricken. I felt better that I had a good speech for his funeral, and after when I dug a hole for my bubsy video game cartridge. Rest in peace ol'pal.

So now the bigger question how do you deal with loss. :I weather it be of a friend, a loved one, maybe it wasn't a death but you lost something quite dear to you.

 

[Ventus]

Poor Bubsy at least it's better than ballz3d.

Anyway, I do not really cope well with loss of important things. Games? Meh, spend money on them and lose them somewhere along the road. Video games are some of the worst material things to care about, in my opinion. Similarly, I couldn't care less about losing a friend; they're a dime a dozen in my area.

But if I lose important things, like contact with my family or food, I tend to go into various fits of rage. It isn't really good for me.

 

[octorok74]

I'm very good with it. Very rarely do I cry over the loss. Because I know that they are done suffering and are more then likly going to a better place. And that thought makes me happy.

 

[Imprisoned]

My friend and I had a fight. I lasted for about three months and then I broke down...

 

[Linknerd09]

Not so well. I always break down crying. I get so emotional over losses and other things. I'm not good of hiding my emotions like some do. It does feel great to cry at times, but not with a loss of a loved one.

 

[HyruleHistory10]

Poor Bubsy at least it's better than ballz3d.

Anyway, I do not really cope well with loss of important things. Games? Meh, spend money on them and lose them somewhere along the road. Video games are some of the worst material things to care about, in my opinion. Similarly, I couldn't care less about losing a friend; they're a dime a dozen in my area.

But if I lose important things, like contact with my family or food, I tend to go into various fits of rage. It isn't really good for me.

Food? omg do not get me started on that lol. I think that i am pretty good because i grew up with no personal attachments to anybody so even when my gramma passed i could never really feel the sadness. I guess i am just really strange.

 

[Pokemon]

I'm super stoic: on the outside and even on the inside. Loss never lasts forever, so I don't cry over spilled milk.

 

[Shadsie]

I don't really know.

No one likes loss and I think, for me, it depends upon the loss and the circumstances.

I deal with loss of jobs / positions HORRIBLY. As in, I become depressed for months and develop a loss of confidence... well, I don't think I've ever recovered my confidence. I am actually on Disability because of a condition I have that... makes me... unable to socially function / keep work. I have had tons of jobs - typically lasting 1-3 months, my longest jobs have lasted 2, 2 and 1/2 years - mostly garbage/low pay work, with a couple of graphic design positions in between and no matter what I do... it seems like people and bosses cannot stand me. I'm too nervous with the public and it seems like sooner or later, I make some kind of boneheaded mistake or have some kind of interaction trouble. There's also the discrimination. If you suffer from panic attacks over stress, don't expect anyone in the world who's not into psychaitry or dealing with a loved one with your condition to understand. We live in a pull yourself up by the bootstraps world that is very hard on those of us born without boots. That said, despite having lost jobs many, many times, I always take it hard - there's a pervading sense of failiure that colors my entire life. So, yeah, job loss... sucks for me.

Loss of a loved one: It's been a long time since I lost someone close to me and the last time I did... I took it very well. As in, I was praying for my grandmother to die. Before you think that sounds cruel... She was a proud woman who was laid low by some horrible conditions that hit her at the end and she was suffering very much. She made it clear to the rest of us that she really wanted to go despite the efforts of doctors to make her stay. Her suffering was putting a great strain on our family - really squirrelling my mother up so, when she finally passed, I went to work (at the job I had at the time) that day after hearing the news in the morning and was totally fine because I was RELIEVED. It's weird when you suffer a family loss, but are glad of it - *because you loved the person you lost.*

A few years ago, my guy and I were forced to evict from our home due to a slew of financial problems and the landlady from Hell. We got the apartment we're living in now pretty much by the skin of our teeth. We had to move very quickly and it was over the winter Holidays. Christmas Eve 2009 was spent transferring the last of our stuff to the new place and, because of all this, we basically had no Christmas. I spent Christmas morning unpacking my bedroom. In one of the drawers of a beareau, I found a sketch I did for a painting I did about Death that I'd forgotten about some time ago (not the painting, the sketch) and it made me think... finding it... that day after the ordeals. I decided that it was okay that we didn't have a Christmas because we had a roof over our heads, and that was enough... The whole thing was stressful, but I think after it was over, I accepted the loss of a home, a holiday... a chunk of my sanity. -- anyone tries to evict me from anwywhere again, though, I might squat out of spite and leave 'em bleeding if they come to take me. *Shrug.*

I really am trying to culitivate a sense of non-attatchment in my life, because I feel like the less I am attatched to things, the less it hurts to lose them, but I'm only partway there.

 

[Beeker]

With the loss of a close friend(whether that would be becoming distance or by passing away), I'm kind of scared as to how I would handle it. A part of me fears losing what is so close and dear to me.

I may however deal with losses better than I thought. I've been fairly lucky with my family, for the most part everyone has been happy and healthy. But at the beginning of the year, I suffered from the loss of my grandmother. I didn't think I would've been as strong as I was then. I guess I had the mindset that although she may be gone, she is much more happier and in a better place. I wasn't thinking about how I would miss her, but rather celebrating her life and the memories we had. I guess that kind of helped make me feel much better.

 

[Reaca]

When my uncle passed away in October, I felt like I took it pretty well. I mean, I was sad and all, but I realized that his cancer couldn't give him any more pain.

During the viewing, though, I broke. I broke hard. As soon as I walked into the funeral home, the floodgates opened up. I couldn't stop crying for at least 45 minutes.

The whole rest of the month sucked after the 16th of October.

 

[Akuhime-sama]

I think it really depends on severity and type of "loss".....
Because, depending on the circumstances, I can either be hardly effected, or I could be horribly petrified.

If it's a death of a loved one, or rather family member, butter put.... Then it depends on how much I bond with them. Now, "LOVED" one.... I would take it hard. I am very fragile with things I love. I break easily with certain things.... though I think I'm getting better at controlling that.

Now, if you mean "Loss" as in something inanimate, then, again it would depend. My computer, about a month ago or so, just froze, and my hard drive was abolished. It was DONE. That alone paralyzed me emotionally for the next 2 weeks or so. It was bad because I haven't backed up anything for MONTHS.... if it hadn't been for that I would have been fine. But no, the loss of Data and all my pictures I took with my camera and everything I knew and loved on that computer was wiped out. That had me beating myself up emotionally. But, now I know not to go too long without a backup.

The same could be said about a house fire or something else. The loss of important objects and data that we care dearly for can hurt.

And if "Loss" could be used for not death, but maybe loss of a friendship or some relation for another person, then I would have to say, that that could also destroy me emotionally, depending yet again. I'm not too good at handling the loss of a friend or somebody I have love feelings for. Specially if it would be over something stupid. And, because I have that really poor ability to take it well, it forms a fear in me that causes me to shy away from people. (or so that's what my guess is, as to why I'm such a horrible introvert with a bad case of social anxiety).... I have notices that I'm always worried I'm doing something wrong and upsetting somebody..... but anyway.... yeah, in most cases, I'm not that good handling loss of relationships, whether it be friendships or love-ships... xP

 

[Omega Fury]

My Great Grandma passed away last month and I was sad but she didn't have to deal with the pain and illness anymore.

 

[CynicalSquid]

I usually try to keep calm whenever I'm dealing with the loss of loved ones. Sometimes I'm too calm about it, sometimes I breakdown and go into depression mode for a few days. It really depends on severity and type of loss.

 

[Lord Vain]

Before I was terrible at dealing with such things, however awhile ago my personality shifted and now I can deal with loss rather easily, sure it sucks but in the end it's just how life works...I'll be sad about it but won't really burst out crying or anything.

 

[Azure Sage]

I'm honestly not sure how I deal with loss. When my great aunt died last summer, I didn't really know how to react to it. Sure, I was sad about it, but I didn't cry at all. I felt somewhat indifferent to it. Thinking back, I've never cried over a death of a loved one before in my life. I don't really know why that is. I do understand what it means for people to die, but I've never had much of an emotional response to it. So I'm not really sure how I deal with it.

Dealing with losses other than death, for example losing a friend, is a different story. I really don't handle rejection well; I never have. Last year, I had a big crush on one of my friends, but she rejected me, and she pretty much stopped talking to me altogether. I was depressed for a month or so. And a recent emotionally upsetting event left me depressed for almost the whole past month. When things like that happen to me, it really shows. What's more, it lasts a long time. Especially when it comes to rejection; I have always had an extremely difficult time letting go. I just can't do it right away. I can't even do it in two weeks or so. It always takes me at least a month.

The way I deal with things like these is basically just trying not to think about it. Usually time heals it, but it takes a lot of time. Talking about it would help, and I have someone to talk to, but I don't like talking about things like this in places like school, and school is the only place I have the opportunity to talk to that someone. So all I can do to deal with it is keep it inside until it eventually goes away.