Have You Ever Had Your Heart Broken?

[EponaOwns]

I have, recently, as in today. I was in school and my friend goes up to (lets call him Adorable dude) aodrable dude. She says, "Do you like [insert name here]?" He says heck no!:( Once I got home I called 2 of my friends who saw everything and they said he might like me because he may not want to say.
They said he was a mean jerk who you can't trust. I agreed with them. Now if you excuse me I'm gonna play wii tennis and vs adorable dude:devil:*evil laugh*:lol:

[Josh]

I get my heart broken every time I figure out I can't do some of the simplest things in the world. It really makes me feel like an idiot some of the time.

Eh.

On the subject of relationships, never.

[Ver-go-a-go-go]

A couple of times, but I just tell myself "There are more important things in the world", and move along.

*Starts screaming All American Rejects songs*

[Hylian Hobbit]

When it comes to relationships, no. I've never had any kind of relationship whatsoever.

When it comes to friendships, kinda. One of my best and only friends who I completely trusted stole something from my house. I wasn't "heart broken", but I was pretty upset.

[kpllk]

In relationships, not yet (hopefully never).

I have had some of my friends turn into enemies. One kid even stole something from my house once, just like HH said. I think that is all.

[Inflexus]

--Moving to General Discussion--

[Y2K3]

This has happened to me many times. It's why I've given up on having crushes on people, etc. No good can come out of liking someone, IMO.
'Friends' enjoy doing this to me as well by betraying me. It's why I have trust issues.

[Claire]

I have, recently, as in today. I was in school and my friend goes up to (lets call him Adorable dude) aodrable dude. She says, "Do you like [insert name here]?" He says heck no!:( Once I got home I called 2 of my friends who saw everything and they said he might like me because he may not want to say.
They said he was a mean jerk who you can't trust. I agreed with them. Now if you excuse me I'm gonna play wii tennis and vs adorable dude:devil:*evil laugh*:lol:

Not to seem cold hearted, but there is quite a difference from being upset from a crush and actually being in a serious relationship for an extended period of time. I think we could all agree that pain from infatuation is nothing compared to the pain of love, since being harmed from someone you know incredibly well is worse than being hurt from someone you barely know (like someone at school).

Imagine spending 10 years with one single person, and not a day goes by where you do not speak to them - then one day they are just gone out of your life. Now, compare that to spending 10 years in school with one certain person, who you saw daily, but probably didn't even know a thing about him/her.

The only thing that really breaks my heart, is realizing how awful people can be. For instance, reading about children being just dropped off outside a building for no apparent reason - other than being unwanted. That there are thousands of unexploded bombs laying in Laos and you never hear of anyone helping them, or the little things that just really wish people were kind, and concerned for the well-being of others.

Relationship wise, I am yet to be broken. Sure, I've been upset by people, but nothing I wouldn't get over in an hour or so by playing video games.

[Mike Pothier]

Been there, done that, listened to every sappy song in existence while trying to understand why she didn't like me.

Then I realized the b**** wasn't worth it, and moved on.

[Crystallion]

So many times, that I stopped counting -_- Sometimes, my bf can be so incredibly hurtful and just plain mean, that it sometimes seems like I'm dying inside. And I'm not even joking.

[Onilink89]

I had a ex-girlfriend, and well the situation wasn 't quite fun.
I was 15 when we started a relationship and it lasted about 8 months. After i heard from a couple of my friends and other people (yes rumors spread around pretty quickly at school) that she was still seeing her ex-boyfriend, i could not believe it. So i asked her directly and she didn 't denied it and she said "sorry it won 't happen again, forgive me". Now i really liked her, but yeah i could not thrust her anymore, so i broke up.

After this, i had other relationships but those where more like relationships for the fun instead of being serious.

[Petman1325]

Yeah, there is this one female I have been having affections towards. I try to ask her out, after procrastinating for 3 weeks, and only to learn that she was already taken. I know I must've been doing something wrong. Since we couldn't talk, I had to do the old love note that asks the question at the very end with pleasurable compliments in the middle, and an firm beginning. After that was over, I started getting a little down. I am the guy who, when they start asking girls out, (1) have logic get into the way, (2) logic locks my heart in a dungeon with the boss being Vatti, Ganon, and Bellum teaming up forces, and (3) I just go in denial for a few hours...

[chrisbg99]

Can't say I have. Which would say something if I was ever in the position to have my heart broken.

[EponaOwns]

:cry:my heart was also broken when my dad had to move to hawaii:cry: its worse cause i live in maine so its 6-5 hours apart.

[Claire]

So many times, that I stopped counting -_- Sometimes, my bf can be so incredibly hurtful and just plain mean, that it sometimes seems like I'm dying inside. And I'm not even joking.

I am curious, but why in the world would you stay in a relationship where you are unhappy? I mean, you do not need to respond to this, but it seems like you are involved with someone who you shouldn't if they make you feel that terrible.

[Crystallion]

I am curious, but why in the world would you stay in a relationship where you are unhappy? I mean, you do not need to respond to this, but it seems like you are involved with someone who you shouldn't if they make you feel that terrible.

You're right, the problem is, I'm afraid what will happen when I lose him that way. Despite all that, I still love him. I'm very fragile to be honest, and always when I want to break up, it seems love gets in the way once more.

It's really hard to explain though, but I think this will do ^^;

[silent lion]

Love is, after all, the most potent of emoitons in most of us.

I've never been in a serious relationship but yeah, I've had my heart broken several times. I suppose everyone more or less will have by the time they're 20. And a crush can affect someone's life in a profound way, I'm living proof. The only real difference between a crush and love is success. If you love someone and it never happens, it's remembered as a crush, if it does happen suddenly it was 'love'. It's all the same thing really. And it's none the easier if you never had a relationship with them.

[Inflexus]

I have had mine broken a few times, including tonight. By a best friend this time, not a lover.It hurts a lot.

[Zelda Freak]

Yeah, once with a girl named gwen, she broke my heart like glass.

[Alkarius]

Relationships, no.
Friendships, Once.

When I was riding my bike alongside my friend, he pushed me off since his other friends said it was cool. Took a nasty fall while they kept laughing and rode ahead. Never trusted him again.

[Dragon Tamer]

My X-boyfriend used me to get to someone else but my heart wasn't broken. Then a guy i liked wanted to go out with me but was afraid that if we break up, then we will lose our friendship. My heart was never broken by these senes, actually i never did care about them.

[Bluelink6]

Having not had a relationship like that, I havent had my heart broken, and judging by my lack of emotion, I think I have no heart to break.

[LoZfan]

Broken.. not so much.. Seemingly ripped out.. yes....This is a really bad place for this particular kind of Heartbreaking... But i felt kinda Heartless ever since my Grandfather's death.....:(

[Stella3000]

Yeah I have had my heart broken many times. By family members, friends, crushes, but not by what I would call a real relationship.

My father has broken my heart more than anyone..... I've had some of my siblings break my heart as well. Also along with what Lenora said about having her heart broken by how some people are just so cold, the same goes for me. All of my friends have broken my hear except one who I am still friends with. One of my friends I became extremely close to fro two years....we both liked each other. I had told him that I had strong feelings for him, but his parents didn't want him to tell me how he felt because we were both so young at the time. After a while I just got sick of waiting on something that I doubted would ever work. I ended up showing interest in someone else, next thing I know my friend is telling me he has always been in love with me, and that he still loves me. At the time though my attention and affection had already been transferred to someone else(someone who was giving me the attention that I had never gotten from my friend: the attention that I had always wanted) and I didn't feel like I could go back. I told him this, and ended up breaking HIS heart. However, shortly after I begin to realize that I had always loved him, that I had always cared for him so much more and that if I had only waited I would have had everything. I realized that my infatuation with this new guy was not really love, and he wasn't right for me. The guy I was "bf, gf" with at the time must have come to a similar conclusion as far as we were not right for each other goes because he ended things with me. By then, it was too late to go back to the friend that should have been with. Even though I tried, it was too late because I had already put him through such rejection that he had moved on. In the end I ended up with a broken heart, but its getting better now. This all happened a good while back. I do regret everything though. Its all been a bit much for me and mostly I'm not happy with how I handled it all. I've always been fragile. Always. I had been, and continue to be hurt by my dad that I didn't want things in my "love life" to not work out. However I believe that heartbreak is un-avoidable, and inevitable. Sure its no fun, but just about everyone has been through some kind of heartbreak. You just have to remember that its not the end of the world, that you still have a purpose for your life, and that things will work out in over time. The good thing about heartbreak is that it makes us stronger, and helps us find out what we really want/who we really want to be with. IMO.

[Mike Pothier]

You're quite mature for your age, Stella.

[Stella3000]

^aaaaaaw. ^.^ Thank you Mike! That means a lot to me.

However I really can't take all the credit. You see if it wasn't for the people who helped me through all of that junk (Flex among them) I wouldn't be where I am today. I think that when you go through heartbreak the people who are your real friends/family and who actually care about you become even more important than ever. You realize just how much you need them and how much they mean to you. Because they are there when you need a shoulder to cry on, or some good advice, or to even just remind you that they love you. I can't take the credit for who I am today, because honestly it really has a lot to do with the people who have stuck with me to this day. ;)

[Made_Of_Win]

So many times, that I stopped counting -_- Sometimes, my bf can be so incredibly hurtful and just plain mean, that it sometimes seems like I'm dying inside. And I'm not even joking.

My husband can get like that at times when he is mad. I have anxiety disorder and used to take pills for it so he sometimes says to me "you're psycho, go take another one of your pills", which is kinda dumb because anxiety disorder, while a mental condition, doesn't make a person a psycho....it's also something I never asked to have so it hurts that someone would say something like that.

Thing is, although things like that hurt, I know he is saying it because he is mad and he knows that comment hurts and when people are mad, they say anything they know will hurt the person they are angry with. My husband loves me a lot so I know he doesn't mean it but it's still mean.


Other than that, he is the only person I have ever been with and plan on staying with until I die so I have never had my heart broken in terms of a break up.

[Stella3000]

^You're married? 0.o Okay well I'm not THAT surprised....idk I just didn't know you were.

I couldn't agree with you more, though. People say stupid things when they are mad. I don't think that you should end a relationship just because of something stupid your loved one said when they were upset. After everyone cools down they usually find that they didn't mean what they said, or that the whole thing was just ridiculous and they were just blowing off steam due to stress for whatever reason. I for one have been there, done that. Sure I have a bit of a problem with it but honestly a lot of people do. When we get angry we tend to do things that we later regret....so don't take what he says to you to heart Crystallion. Don't let those things break your heart. He (most likely) doesn't mean them.

[Claire]

^You're married? 0.o Okay well I'm not THAT surprised....idk I just didn't know you were.

I couldn't agree with you more, though. People say stupid things when they are mad. I don't think that you should end a relationship just because of something stupid your loved one said when they were upset. After everyone cools down they usually find that they didn't mean what they said, or that the whole thing was just ridiculous and they were just blowing off steam due to stress for whatever reason. I for one have been there, done that. Sure I have a bit of a problem with it but honestly a lot of people do. When we get angry we tend to do things that we later regret....so don't take what he says to you to heart Crystallion. Don't let those things break your heart. He (most likely) doesn't mean them.

The reason why these things can be more hurtful within a serious relationship, is because that person is one of the most important people in your life - which results in them being able to hurt you more than anyone else, even if they fail to realize so.

It is a relationship in which the participants know or trust one another very well or are confidants of one another, or a relationship in which there is physical or emotional intimacy. An intimate relationship is comprised of two key traits: passion and companionship. To put yourself in a relationship that causes you to suffer to the point where you feel practically dead inside, then that is totally unhealthy. Everyone has anger, and if it is that bad - then communication within the relationship is key to learn how to effectively manage your partners emotions, especially when angry.

But if your partner is unwilling to treat you properly, or understand what is appropriate when communicating with you - then something needs done. What real reason is there to be in such a poor relationship, other than having feelings for them? I couldn't imagine that the partner would have such feelings if they were aware of how horrible they cause you to feel. I do not see how anyone could, unless they were sadistic.

[Stella3000]

^You have a very good point there Lenora. If your partner is not willing to even realize the damage that they are causing then you shouldn't stick with them if they are treating you THAT badly. It all comes down to you deserve better. You deserve to be with someone who truly loves, and cherishes you. We all understand that everyone gets angry sometimes and that every relationship will have its fair share of arguments. However if it gets to the point where your partner is being extremely hurtful and doesn't even WANT to try and correct that, then you should consider if he/she is worth your time. Lenora is also right in saying that it is easier to hurt someone when you are in a serious relationship than just a fling. When we get angry we say things that we know will hurt, so if your partner really knows you then he/she might end up saying things that really hurt. Is this to say that you should just let it slide because its the same as when I said they are just angry and don't mean what they are saying but it just hurts more? No. Because if the person you are with KNOWS these things will really hurt you then they shouldn't say them no matter how angry they are. If they care about you, truly care about you then they wouldn't want to hurt you even when they are mad. It all comes down to how serious your relationship is, what exactly is being said that hurts you, and where you draw the line. All of this is your call. You are the one to decide how much you are going to take. Just think about it, though. Do you really want to be in a relationship that is constantly hurting you more than it is worth? Or is it really nothing to end the relationship over. Its up to you. You know how much your heart can take.

[Mike Pothier]

The reason why these things can be more hurtful within a serious relationship, is because that person is one of the most important people in your life - which results in them being able to hurt you more than anyone else, even if they fail to realize so.

I can't stress how true this is. My wife and I are so in tune, its sometimes unsettling how often we think the exact same thing at the same time.

And since I'm so close to her, she can cut right through every defense I have and hurt me without even trying. All it takes is one flippant comment or a certain look. No other person has ever effected me like this. Hell, I'm usually a very laid back and easy going guy. Nothing anybody ever said to me before ever effected me.

Its not pretty, or easy, in our relationship. Because we're so attuned to each other, we fight more often then we probably should, but we work at it. I wouldn't want to fight with anyone else.

[Zeanith]

Sadly, yes. By boys and girls.

I'd rather have it broken by a girl, tho...

She wasn't as...harsh as he was.
Not as in it didn't hurt as bad. She was nice about it. He yelled and made me cry.

[Stella3000]

^That sucks. What do you mean by "I'd rather have it broken by a girl"? Its not the gender that really makes a difference in my book. Girls can be mean about it too. No I'm not gay, but I don't think that having your heart broken by a boy or girl would really make any difference. Either one could be nice or mean. Its the person who is braking your heart that makes the difference.

[Kazumi]

Me? No. I have no mercy on anyone. Not like those heroes in the movies and books that always spare the life of the villian. I would kill him before he could even finish telling me about his plans. But that doesn't mean I'm not a nice person. Also, considering I'm only 11, I haven't had a "relationship" with anyone. I givve no mercy to my enemies. But I'm very nice to my friends.

[Moosh_is_cool]

I've moved every two years since the end of second grade, and I'm moving again at the end of this year. I've had to say goodbye so many times. I'm different because of it though. Relationships - no. Friendships - yes.

[DisappearingMist]

I've moved every two years since the end of second grade, and I'm moving again at the end of this year. I've had to say goodbye so many times. I'm different because of it though. Relationships - no. Friendships - yes.

That's sad. Are you a military kid? I would hate to move around a lot. I've never had to move, so I can't say that I understand, but I definitely feel bad for you.

[El Bagu]

Doesn´t everyone have their heart broken sometime? That´s life in reality and yes it has happened sometimes. But don´t worry, after sun comes the rain!

[UsayEldaZay]

Well, I'm young. Still in eighth grade and there's a dance coming up. There's this guy that I am like in love with. He knows me a little and hes really shy. I just admire him from far away which is werid because I'm usually really outgoing. So, I have only had two convos with him. So I get my friend Courtney to ask him out for me, desperate right? Well, yep that's what I do. He tells her that he won't ask me to the dance because he doesn't know me well enough. I took that as he hated me or something and I was crushed. The dance is still a ways away but I still am trying to get over this.

[Zeanith]

I have. This song always makes me feel better, and I'm happy by the next morning. :]


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3wH6y6-768
That could make anyone smile. :D

[Amelie]

I have never had my heart broken... not relationship wise. And I hope it does not happen because I have been very happy the last few days with my relationship ^^

It is going perfectly and I think it is because we have been friends forever. I hope I never get my heart broken... But I cant say it WONT happen... I just dont want it to...

[Skull_Kid]

I recently had my heart broken by my ex-girlfriend(the one that's in the pictures with me on the Picture Thread).
She moved to the town next to mine, and we could only see each other at tuesdays and Fridays... After 3 or 4 months she decided it was not working out and ended everything up. But she still says she loves me, but doesn't wanna come back.
I trusted her and told her things I never told to anyone, I opened my heart with her, and she kept promising that our relation was for real, and then, she does that:(

[Amelie]

Sorry to hear that Skullkid :( I sure hope something happens for you ^^ Maybe you will get back together some day... maybe when both of you can be together more.

(hugs)

[Axle the Beast]

The Prelude to Miss Murder is awesome, Zeanith. ^^

I've never had my heart broken in a relationship, but in the subject of friendships (as people have been mentioning,) I have. Quite a lot, actually.

Although as of late I've been having a much easier time in that regard. Even people I used to be friends with until we had problems are now friends again, so I guess I can't complain.

[Gildragon]

One of my greatest fears relationship wise is to be led on. and made to believe feelings are being felt back but aren't.

My 2nd GF for example. wanted to break up with me, oh around Junior Prom. but only didn't because I had already bought the tickets. We even went on a couple of dates before prom, and she seemed extremely quiet. So I being the hopeless romantic, completely decorated her room with Valentines gifts. also the night of prom I took her out to dinner at a local fancy resort. I had arranged to have birthday gifts there for me. (keep in mind she already wants to break up with me while all this is goign on) We have a good time. go to prom. etc. etc. the night ends and life goes on.

Until church the next wednesday.
Just before I was supposed to go up and sing, she meets me out in the hallway, and gives me the gifts back, and breaks up with me.

couldn't of picked a worse friggin time.

[Amelie]

Wow... that seems very cold to me. Im so sorry to hear that! I guess I dont know much about it yet... because Im really not old enough and Im only in my first relation ship now for just a few days. I guess you can call it that. But I agree with you. Being led on is probably the worst thing that can happen... it just sounds very cruel...

[Gildragon]

It was My first Gilfriend was cheating on me but used me as a cover to not make people think she was doing anything with him.

I have a small trust issue when it comes to relationships. It makes me CLINGY.

I therefore establish trust BEFORE pursuing a relationship

[DisappearingMist]

It was My first Gilfriend was cheating on me but used me as a cover to not make people think she was doing anything with him.

I have a small trust issue when it comes to relationships. It makes me CLINGY.

I therefore establish trust BEFORE pursuing a relationship

That's a bummer, on both counts. I learned that friendship was essential before being in a relationship. It really cut down on the trust problems that I had. Hopefully the third time is the charm for you :)

[Gildragon]

3rd time came and went.

but the only reason was because I had to move, out of state.

She was definitely my favorite. WE got to know each other real fast.
and she was a good kisser.

I really missed her when I left

[Zemen]

yeah, ive had my heart broken. back in high school, senior year. her parents didnt like me and made dumb rules to make it hard for us to make it work. we werent allowed to hang out outside of school unless it was at her house with her parents home. we couldnt go to the movies, out to dinner, nothing. we found ways to hang out obviously and someone (i think it was her ex) like took a picture of us hanging out at a friends house through the window and showed it to her mom. she immediately told her she couldnt be with me anymore and threatened to make her go live with her dad if she continued to see me. to this day we still talk from time to time and to this day she will still tell me shes in love with me. i was hurt for a while but eventually got used to it. sometimes it still stings to think about, but thats life. shes changed so much that shes not the same girl i fell in love with. thats the truly heartbreaking part. loving someone who loses themself and cant even see it.

[Stephanie]

Relationships: No
Friendships: Yes

One of my BEST friends that I've known for 6 years has been a jerk lately, she's obsessed with her boyfriend. She doesn't seem to want to hang out with me anymore. The last time I was at her house I came home crying because she and her boyfriend ditched me the whole time. Every time I caught up with them they would leave me again.

[Master Link]

I have had the same type of problem the Steph has had.

My best friend switched schools because it was too far to drive each day, after that we still hung out a lot. After a few months he stopped talking to me. I still see him often but he never pays any attention to me. It's almost like he has forgotten me.

[Kokiri Kid]

My heart breaks every time I have to go back to Australia without my wife.

My heart has been broken before in the past, by girls. Mainly girls who play, lead me on and poop me out afterwards.

Though, I'm glad I'm married now.

[Zelda Hunter]

Hm.... No. Never have, and planning on "never will."

What is it now... 5 months?

[Stella3000]

I have had my heart broken just recently.

I found out that my older bro. (the most epic person in the world, who has been my best friend all my life) is moving out.

^That's not why I'm sad.....if it was I'd be some kind of creep. lol.

The fact that he is moving out is great for him and I couldn't be happier for him. Except, there is just one small problem.

He is going to be room mates with a guy from the church we left, and hanging out with other people from that church. (NO my bro is NOT gay.)

However, because he is going to be around these people, my father said that we must now treat him like we are treating them. (We aren't allowed to see or speak with them.)

^THIS has hurt me more than ANYTHING in my life. I have never been so broken. Worst part is, my bro. is moving out in less than two weeks. I have less than two weeks until I will not be able to see or talk to him again!

[Kaynil]

I don't see why should be agree to obey such a rule, if you really enjoy being around him, I find that really harsh on your dad, specially if he expects you to submissive obey that. Whatever reasons you may have not to talk to the other people, I rarely think may justify to treat him that way. Specially when he is an adult (or close enough). Maybe it is because I can't see the whole thing, but it sounds badly.

Myself, I don't think I feel heartbroken about big disappointments, but right now I think this words kind of matches my feelings, for a while my sweet darling and I will stay in different places. We will reunite again in the future but meanwhile I am trying my best to be strong, since it is a necessary step.

[Stella3000]

I don't see why should be agree to obey such a rule, if you really enjoy being around him, I find that really harsh on your dad, specially if he expects you to submissive obey that. Whatever reasons you may have not to talk to the other people, I rarely think may justify to treat him that way. Specially when he is an adult (or close enough). Maybe it is because I can't see the whole thing, but it sounds badly.

Myself, I don't think I feel heartbroken about big disappointments, but right now I think this words kind of matches my feelings, for a while my sweet darling and I will stay in different places. We will reunite again in the future but meanwhile I am trying my best to be strong, since it is a necessary step.

I don't expect you to understand. You don't know the details about why we aren't having any contact with these people anymore.

That doesn't really matter, though. Understanding why your parents made a rule, and the reason(s) behind the rule is not important.

Understanding that you have to trust them and obey them is what's important.

[Kaynil]

It is okay, after all I'm not trying to shove my views on this to you, specially when I don't have really any idea of the situation. So, I'll just say that I hope that everything goes all right for your brother and you, I find beautiful, even if I can't apply it that way myself, the faith you have in your parents and that you mind is really set into what you think is the right thing to do.

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About the thread, I'll try to add more about my experiences.

I've been feeling heartbroken about certain friendship and group that is every day shattered more and more, I just don't know where do I stand in it, since I hate taking sides.

Right now, I haven't got the hit complete and I am already feeling this way. It is going to be hard to walk in this city without him by my side.

[Stella3000]

Thank you.

Lol, I'm really not one to talk when it comes to "faith in my parents". I have made so many mistakes of not trusting them. So I'm not trying to say things like I'm perfect or anything, Because I'm far from that. However, I'm a strong believer in second chances. Do you know what? Making the mistakes I did, only taught me how much I do indeed need to trust them. Because they are only doing it all for my best interest. That's why I said what I did in my last post. I have come to strongly believe what I said in that post. Sure, I haven't ALWAYS followed it. Although, I plan to from now on. Even though this situation with my brother is a really hard one for me to trust my dad on; if I don't start somewhere, I'm never going to start at all.
I just try to think of it in two ways.

1.) If my bro. is happy, then I'm happy. :)

2.) Things like this happen when we (even though we might not think it) we are ready for them to happen. Meaning, I'm strong enough to go on without him. He has been a great part of my life, but it is time for me to become more stable without the comfort of having him around. All in all, this will just make me stronger.

So, I just try to think of things like this, and take joy in all circumstances.

However, I just found out that he is moving out even sooner. A week from today, to be precise. Even though I try to stay positive, this is all still really hard. I have a week until he is gone, the clock is ticking.

[octorok74]

I haven't had my heart broken yet. I think I'll wait til I'm out of high school ,when people are more mature for their age, to start looking for that someone. But, friendship-wise, yes, all the time. One day I talk to a friend and the next minute they go off and start talking bad about me. They use anything I say against me, exspecially my love for The Legend of Zelda series.

[Stella3000]

Change of plans (again)....my bro left yesterday.....

[Ver-go-a-go-go]

But, friendship-wise, yes, all the time. One day I talk to a friend and the next minute they go off and start talking bad about me. They use anything I say against me, exspecially my love for The Legend of Zelda series.

Aww, that's pretty sad Octorok. I've had an experience very similar, where a "good" friend of mine talked trash about me behind my back so he'd look "cool" for the popular guys. He called me "geek" and "nerd" because of my love for video games, but I found it funny that he plays them himself. I try not to let it bother me though. It helps remind me who my true friends are, and who the "backstab when it's convenient for me" guys are.

[death_knight]

I have had my heart broken just recently.

I found out that my older bro. (the most epic person in the world, who has been my best friend all my life) is moving out.

^That's not why I'm sad.....if it was I'd be some kind of creep. lol.

The fact that he is moving out is great for him and I couldn't be happier for him. Except, there is just one small problem.

He is going to be room mates with a guy from the church we left, and hanging out with other people from that church. (NO my bro is NOT gay.)

However, because he is going to be around these people, my father said that we must now treat him like we are treating them. (We aren't allowed to see or speak with them.)

^THIS has hurt me more than ANYTHING in my life. I have never been so broken. Worst part is, my bro. is moving out in less than two weeks. I have less than two weeks until I will not be able to see or talk to him again!

I believe very strongly in trusting and obeying your parents. Even when you don't agree. It's a struggle, I know.
However, as I have learned, a lot of times they are wrong. Now, it doesn't do to throw that in their faces or try to prove that you're right and they are wrong. You must still try your best to respect them....but when they are hurting people around you.....Stella, this sounds like a severe case of shunning to me, which doesn't seem right at all. I hope you don't think this is the right thing to do. And I feel even more sorry for your parents for going along and doing it to their OWN SON!! A parent should never turn from their own child. Ever. period. I don't care what in the world he's done. It can't be bad enough that they would just forget him, not speak or see him at all. And more so, command you to do the same thing! You're going to disown your brother? I'll be thinking of you guys in my prayers.....this just doesn't seem right to me, and it breaks my heart. I could see how a father would be stubborn enough to turn on his son, but what of the mother who gave birth to him? What does she say in all of this? Stay strong in this, Stella. I hope you do the right thing.

[Stella3000]

Thank you for your input death_knight.

If you have read my other posts, then you know that I agree with what you said about how it is good to obey your parents.

So, I obeyed them. Even though I really didn't like it. Guess what happened?

My bro called my dad last night, and they talked for a very long time. When my dad hung up, he said that my bro was coming home. My bro came home last night! Yayz! :D

Things are working out now. The whole point of not talking to him was this: to get him to come back. It gave him time to think about things, it kept us from arguing with him about it, it made it so that when he did talk to my dad, he was ready to. That was the whole point. To get him to realize what he was doing that we believe is wrong, and repent. Sometimes, doing what is best for someone isn't easy. However, if we had just given in, and tolerated what he was doing, it would have made him feel justified. We had to make a stand, and draw the line. It wasn't fun, but in the end it got the desired result.

Sure, sometimes your parents can be wrong. However, a lot of the time they are right. In this case, I believe that they were.

About my mom, yes she had a VERY hard time excepting that she had to go along with what we had to do concerning my bro. It took her a while; but in the end she understood that it had to be done.

Now, we are working through this as a family. I am soooo happy my brother is home. So very happy. :zelda:

[arkvoodle]

*Reviving extremely old but important thread*

Yes actually.

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Unfortunately, I never get the chance to fully express my love for anyone. Something always takes it away.

A few months ago, this girl who I really liked was just standing there in the middle of the field beside our local park.

I went over to speak to her, and I found her in tears clutching her cell phone.
Apparently her beloved aunt had just died.

The thing is, I said hi to her in a really stupid way, by saying "Oh hai thar misshus purples" (it's an inside joke).

When I realised she was crying, she had a really wild outburst and screamed at me, calling me an inconsiderate *** who she regrets ever meeting.

She then ran away, and bumped into another guy, and she collapsed into his arms and they both walked off.

I was heartbroken. I knew she was upset, but I shouldnt have been so idiotic not to realise. I blamed myself, and I went home.

A few weeks later, I saw her again, this time with the same person. And there they were. Laughing together, which eventually lead to a kiss.

I felt incredibly sad, but happy for her at the same time. We could have had something like that. We were great friends after all, until that day. I've been told that I shouldnt blame myself, but it isnt the first time something has happened between us (as friends).

Meh. Maybe i'll find someone else in the future. But she'll always be there in the back of my mind. :3

[Ghosi]

Well I had my heart broken just about a year ago. Befor starting 6th grade, one of my BFFs had to move to another school. We told each other we would never forget about our friendship. The next year, we went to the same middle school. We chatted for the first month, but later on barely even said hi in the hallways. By the end of the year, we didn't even talk to each other. It was really sad. Then I thought maybe we can be friends again, but then I had to move away from the state. Right now I am healed, but I still remember the fun times we had.

[Ice6661]

only once when i was in grade 9, i was dating my best friend at the time, and i felt like he was gunna be the one
things just didnt work out he broke up with me and my heart was so broken, it took me forever to get over
i met the man im with right now changed all that so im happy now